IN my life I have had all kinds of bosses. There is one particular boss I will never forget. She made my life a living hell (that is an understatement).
She drained all the confidence out of me. There was always something negative she had to say.
I know you probably have come across such people. My sincere commiseration if you have a boss like that.
Recently, I read an article on self-esteem, written by Brenda McDowell-Holmes, founder of McDowell-Holmes&Associates.
After reading it, I realised my boss had self-esteem issues. I will share some of her insights in this article.
According to the Oxford Dictionary, self-esteem is defined as having “a good opinion of oneself”.
How we feel about ourselves can influence how we live our lives and how we interact with others.
In addition to this, high self-esteem brings about an improved self-image, which in turn, results in greater self-confidence and self-respect.
Self-esteem is often closely tied with the image you have of yourself, which can often be seen through our appearance, attitude and behaviour.
A lot of how we feel about our bodies comes from how society tells us we are supposed to look. Having a good self-esteem means that you love, respect and trust yourself despite what society says.
It is important to note, however, that your appearance is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Consequently, it is important to pay attention to the image you are presenting.
No matter how accomplished we are, there is that nagging inner voice that tells us that we are inadequate. Having high self-esteem means ignoring this inner voice, changing your attitude, and starting to believe in yourself.
Besides our appearance and attitude, our behaviour is also linked to our image and self-esteem.
Many times our negative self-esteem shows in our negative behaviours. Some of the negative behaviour includes:
- Being aggressive
- Undermining our success and reputation,
- Being highly critical,
- Belittling people, especially in front of others.
On the contrary, getting along with others shows you have confidence in yourself.
Are you a team player? When you are a team player, it is a win-win situation. Everyone on the team wins. Do you want to win? If so, you need to have good self-esteem, which is characterised by:
- Being co-operative,
- Achieving success,
- Accepting and complimenting others,
- Feeling content and happy,
Having good self-esteem is an ongoing process. You can achieve a lot in life by just believing in yourself.
So tap into the power of your self-esteem today, and become a more positive, successful and better you.