TO every child there is no one like their father and no one is as strong as he is.
By Kilton Moyo
No child ever thinks their father can lose a fight or be weak. I like the way children view fathers. To every child the father is the most trustworthy and safest person they have and yet this trust and loyalty is betrayed day in and day out by many of us nature has called into fatherhood.
Have you ever stopped to think what children feel when their trust and love has been betrayed? I wonder what they would say about fathers if we were to carry out a little survey.
However, today I want to just lament over the betrayal of children by fathers. I want to look at one area that hurts so much — rape.
What would have happened when a father rapes his own daughter? I have been trying all the past two weeks to really understand this. It is as confusing as it is shameful.
I asked a few people and they shared their thoughts which I will share with you. A father is every child’s first line of defence. There is no defence wall stronger than a father and when the father turns predator, children are not only vulnerable, but infected.
Who will defend and provide for and take care of children if their own fathers have become their molesters? Humanity has never been in such danger and risk.
Raping our daughters is not only an affliction to humanity, but a crime against it. Fatherhood is an office of higher responsibility and not thuggery and banditry. But what could be the reason for fathers raping their daughters?
It’s purely demonic and witchcraft. How natural to humanity is this behaviour? If it is unnatural then it qualifies to be a result of some spiritual confusion and hence being called demonic.
It is a doctrine of the destroyer of human life. Rape destroys the victim, but I believe it is even more destructive when it is the father involved. Where do you run to for support, encouragement, justice and protection when it is your father doing this?
It is a psychological problem with spiritual roots where the father begins to see his daughter as a sexual object for his own gratification. I think it is the worst psychological condition to fail to understand your role as a father. When your feelings know no boundary then something has gone extremely wrong.
I thought fathers had boundaries and were responsible enough to know it is taboo in the land of the living to sexually relate with their daughters.
Some rape their daughters as remedy for poverty or some cleansing from whatever ailments. Mostly they would have been instructed by some false prophets or other spiritists. It is done for ritual purposes for power, wealth or even sacrifice.
Satan demands sacrifices which mostly involve families and innocent girls become victims. I am yet to see anyone wealthy because of this and if ever they are there, it is embarrassingly temporary and will end with greater shame. So why should humanity embrace such deception and violate young lives in this manner?
Why would a normal father stoop so low and perpetrate such evil against his own blood and seed? It is too hard to understand.
There could be many more reasons given, but whatever reason, raping your daughter is the most cruel and evil thing a father can do. Fathers are there to protect and defend their children and hide them from the evil schemes of the world.
Fathers are there to walk with their children from birth to the very end. A father’s love never ceases and is unconditional. I pray that as fathers, in this generation, we will have time to stop and take stock and then take our hearts back to God and learn fatherhood there.
As we celebrate Father’s Day all over the world, whether you believe in this day or not, may all fathers come to a point where they can rededicate themselves to the best values and desires of fatherhood. Let us look at our;
Integrity as fathers and commit to Godly principles,
Character as fathers. Are you the kind of a father your children can be proud of? Are you really a father to them or just a man in the house?
Fellow fathers, let us go back home and be fathers as expected by our families and by God. Protect your girl child the best way you can and commit to assisting others in your community. Happy Father’s Day.
Kilton Moyo writes in his own capacity as pastor, counselor and author of The Sex Trap. Call or whatsap on +263 775 337 207/ +263 712 384 841 or +263 772 610 103