IT has been called the great question that has never been answered by one of the greatest students of human thinking.
The mystery of women’s desires seems to floor even the most astute men. Sigmund Freud, the godfather of modern psychology lamented, “The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is ‘What does a woman want?’”
So being the sort of person who would tend to venture where angels fear to tread I thought I could make a reasonable attempt at answering this age old question.
Of course I can’t claim to speak for all women, but I can certainly speak for the women I have spoken to.
Knowing women though, I doubt I could do justice to all that they want in a matter of five hundred words, but I’ll try.
Women want stability. Quite what is meant by this may be open to interpretation, but given their biology and the role they tend to play in nurturing young ones, I think this means they need to put down roots, have a certain level of predictability over things like income, abode and affection.
Be warned, consistance for women is not necessarily a good thing when it comes to romantic relationships. If you are a man trying to impress a woman, predictability may be your worst enemy. When it comes to love, women want a level of adventure, some new ideas, sprinkles of surprises and a little ingenuity.
Women want companionship. They like to talk. They want someone who can listen, engage, and contribute without lecturing.
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Inherently women are often reluctant to sing their own praises, in many instances, they cannot even see the magnitude of their talents, so having people around who can affirm and encourage them is usually greatly appreciated.
Women want freedom. They want to go where they want, with whom they want, when they want. They want financial freedom – making their own money and spending it the way they choose.
Women want power. They want to be able to determine their own destiny; to take responsibility for their own choice; to make choices without asking for permission.
So often women end up dealing with the consequences of other people’s choices, knowing very well that they would not have made those decisions had they been empowered to do so.
Beyond companionship, yes of course women want love. Women want the love of a good man. And what constitutes a good man, you might be wondering? A good man is a man who is respectful – not just in speech and gestures, but in his thinking and in the choices he makes. A good man is supportive through good times and bad.
He braves the risky spaces and takes the leaps of faith with you. He says, “Lets try it” instead of “You cant do it”.
Women are really not that difficult to understand after all.
