Marriage is a God thing.It is never a human creation or discovery. Because of the fall and sin in our lives we have brought too much of our wisdom into marriage and have suffered so much as a result.
It is important to correct our belief about marriage so we can allow the Creator to fix it for us.
As we said last time, unity in marriage is the axis upon which the whole relationship rotates and lives.
Without unity marriage is sick. Of course, yours might be looking flamboyant from the outside because you have material possessions, but believe you me, inside there is a vacuum. The centre is not holding.
If marriage was about money, the rich would not have failed.
If marriage was about facial beauty or education, the beautiful and educated would not have failed.
If marriage was about going to a church service and serving in the house of the Lord, church goers would not have failed too.
If it was about the prophet’s oil, then those who use it would not have failed.
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There is something about marriage that is deeper than all these things we chase after.
There are some things that hold marriage together and one of the things is unity.
How can we build unity in our marriages? It’s never an event, but a process requiring commitment, love and purpose.
The challenge with this generation is that it does not have enough patience and commitment to fix things, especially relationships. This is where the deception lies. lRemember that our problem is the hardness of our hearts towards God and each other.
Have time as a couple and search your hearts and allow God to convict you.
Beloved, God begins to work in us when we genuinely repent and surrender to Him.
Give your heart to God first. If your heart is given to human traditions, cultures and religions and not to God, you will only try to achieve unity through controlling the other person which does not work out the purpose of God in marriage.
Unity is of God and is of the Spirit of God.
Anger, bitterness, resentment, an unforgiving spirit and malice will destroy the basis of unity in any marriage. I do not need to be a prophet to see and tell that many couples are suffering from these emotions that keep them apart.
Remember, the enemy would do anything to keep you divided and squabbling so you cannot achieve that which is of God in your marriage. The devil hates your peace and romance. Repent, confess and fight together. Protect each other and let nothing separate you.
lPray together as a couple. I do not know if you pray at all, but unity in prayer as a couple will bring about the divine unity needed in your marriage.
Praying together is a struggle for many Christian families. Beloved, failure to pray together is what the enemy likes. Mathew 18:19 says: “Again, I say to you that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in Heaven.” Praying together is about coming before God and agreeing on anything you ask.
The Bible says this will be done by God. There is a promise of accomplishment of anything two people can ask from God in prayer.
Remember that when God created humankind, He created two people — husband and wife.
When these two come together to pray and ask, God gives. Two people become foundational in the divine processes.
A couple that prays together grows together, loves better, forgives faster, thinks together, has open communication, plays together and will correct each other without shouting or fighting.
Prayer breeds unity which is the divine ground for the manifestation of the blessing of God.
lDo things together. Keep company. Unity comes when a couple begins to do whatever they do together. Do business together.
Do ministry together. Share ideas and life. In the world, husbands are in business while wives are at home and know nothing about business.
This is against the nature of marriage and is an open door for enemy attacks.
That is why many husbands end up in adultery and crime because their “helpmeet” is not there. Remember that in Eden, the first couple before the fall did things together.
Even the day they sinned they were together and both ate the fruit.
You are stronger when you are together in what you are doing as a couple.
Husbands must understand that they are never fully in charge and successful without the participation of their wives.
The mandate is for both of you to be fruitful and have dominion, in unity.
One reason for the failure of African business is this husband-alone syndrome. The pattern of God in business is the whole family involved.
Perhaps you need a radical fresh start in your marriage life. You still can make it. Unity is what we all need now.
lKilton Moyo writes in his on capacity as a pastor, counselor and author of The Sex Trap.
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