Value your wife


Human cultures, traditions and religions attach very little value to women.


This has led, over the centuries, to the serious abuse of women, who are treated as inferior, and with no value at all. The abuse of women in marriage and outside of it stems from these seriously wrong cultural, and religious beliefs. One glaring religious error is the deliberate teaching that in Genesis 3, God cursed the woman and made her inferior to man.

For centuries this scripture has been violated and abused just to suit a satanic agenda to rubbish womanhood. God never cursed the woman in Genesis 3.

Many people, women included, believe that women are inferior and cannot stand on their own. Many have believed a lie that men can do whatever they wants with women and it becomes dangerous when you enter into marriage with such a distorted mind-set.

This confused mind-set is responsible for the abuse and oppression of many women in marriage.

However, we need to always allow the word of God to inform our attitudes towards what He alone created. How we treat women, our wives, our husbands, our children and humanity in general must be determined by the word of God. So what does God say about your wife?

●He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22). Oh my God!

A wife is a good thing. She is a good thing by herself and when you find her you have found that good thing. The Bible does not say when you find a wife you have found a witch, troubles or a worthless thing like many of us thing. Your wife is a good thing.

Not only that, when you find her, you get favour from the Lord.

Before you have found her, you have not obtained favour from the Lord and you have no good thing in all the things you have acquired. She connects you with the favour of God. Perhaps this is the reason why God says in Genesis 2:18, “It is not good for a man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable to him.”

On your own without your wife you are not in a good shape.

Your wife has added value to you sir. It is not you adding value to her but she adds value to you. She does not only help you discover your full potential as a man but she also helps you to live.

Without her you are in a bad state. In other words your wife makes you.

Listen; there is no substitute for good. When God says something is good, it is good indeed. My brother I need you to understand that you cannot compare your wife to money, education, wealth or status. She is far much more of value than these.

The only good thing you have right now is your wife and God is not a man to lie.

●Houses and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14.

Do you believe that God gave you your wife? Congratulations, she is understanding and prudent. The Lord does not give you cheap stuff. You cannot ask for a wife and He gives you a snake or scorpion. No.

God gives good things to His people. He has given you a prudent wife. He has given you a wise wife. It is you who has made her dull because you never wanted to recognise her value and wisdom. What you refuse to recognise does not mean it is not there. What you refuse to recognise, will not work for you and you will lack while in abundance.

Many of us, particularly in the church, God has given us capable, intelligent and virtuous wives, who are more precious than jewels and whose value is far above rubies or pearls but we have turned them into monsters and toys.

We have, through our cultural and religious beliefs denied them the right to be themselves so they can help us in the direction of God. We have hijacked their potential by denying them education, employment, status and dignity befitting prudence and goodness.

We have allowed everything in society to take their place in our hearts and rubbish them to a point of no return. It is sad that you cannot realise the gold in your hands. What are you looking for my brother?

You are married to goodness and quality from God above and see how you run all over the show messing yourself up.

How dare you rubbish the very thing that makes you good, the thing which God says is more precious than your wealth and that connects you with the favour of God? Let me end this in this manner. In the kingdom of God wives are of great value.

They are a good thing and highly esteemed. They are precious and deserve honour and unconditional love. In the world, they are brutalised, demonised, called names, divorced and sometimes killed. Where do you belong?

“For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the Church”. Ephesians 5:29. This is our standard. We value, nourish, protect and cherish our wives as Christ does to His church.

 Kilton Moyo is the creator of Fruitful Marriages, a renewal and enrichment programme, and is pastor, counsellor and author of The Sex Trap.

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