Shaping your own destiny

Jonah Nyoni

“You are completely responsible for everything you are today, for everything you think, say and do, and for everything you become from this moment forward. Refuse to make excuses or blame others. Instead, make progress toward your goals everyday” Cythia Hakutangwi.

Those are incisive words from Cythia Hakutangwi in her book The Whole You. The year is swiftly coming to an end and it’s the time to take stork of what we have achieved.

Most of success or failures are self-made. Most people don’t agree to that, but the successful will tell you that it is true. Success is all in the mind. Decide to design your own life and start acting on that now!

Did you know that the greatest step you can take today is not as big as most people think? One writer once said; you become great by doing small things in a great way.

The law of compounded effort will tell you that you are a sum total of your small daily actions. If that is true with failure it is also true with success. Right away, at the click of your finger, your life can change as long as you want it to.

Basically, there are two groups of people as we focus on their success.

Number one: Those with an external locus
These think that their life is controlled by external factors. They think that what they do is controlled by other people. These have greater stress, since they think they are helpless.

These are the people that blame their bosses for their current earnings. They think someone or something out there is sabotaging their success.

Number two: Those with an internal locus
These feel they are the architects of their own destinies. They have control of their life, destiny and results. The feel they are behind the whiles of their own life. These have less stress since they reach their internal forces for solutions.

The best life to spend is on number two. You can shift from blaming external forces into focusing on your personal potential. To get started, I want you to have a note book and answer to the following question:

What are you going to do differently? (this will change your results),

What is my standard for life? (this will change your focus/ challenge your limiting beliefs),

What is my daily growth program? (this will affect your daily mental/ emotional growth),

What is my one year plan? (this will determine your short term plans),

What is my five year plan? (this will determine your you mid-term plan),

What is my ten year plan? (this will shape your long term plan).

These simple steps will help you with what you focus on, what you spend your energy and resources on, who you associate with and to identify mentors or coaches who will help you attain your dreams.

Parting point: Earl Nightingale in his book Lead The Field wrote: Success or failure as a human being is not a matter of luck, or circumstances, or fate, or the breaks, or who you know- or any other tiresome, old myths and clichés by which the ignorant tend to excuse themselves. It’s a matter of following a commonsense paradigm of rules- guidelines anyone can follow.”

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